AR – Action Required

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I used to think that I only needed to know a little more to make a difference. Years passed by, and I feel I’ve missed something. Often enough, I haven’t been able to put that into action.

Who’s to blame? No one. No one could set the right path for me. No one but me.

While committing myself to change for the better, two major frames would define how I’ll do it.

Incremental growth is day-to-day business, it is easy to reason with it. Time-lapses showed everything from how a plant grows to how a storm forms and starts to damp the grass. Incremental growth is decimals over numbers. Incremental growth is knowing your best friend since you were kids, meeting each other day in, day out. Incremental growth is constantly checking into your bank account, and if you’re brave enough, you’ll know it will raise.

Sometimes though, we are required to press the switch.

We have to go from 0 to 1.

At that point, factual knowledge won’t help at all. It will actually put even more pressure, trying to extend decision making until momentum is lost. And it won’t come back.

I actually feel a little disappointed to write about this. It risks to add up more information than you need to know. It risks to sink you into looking for other answers and compare them, hoping to pull out an even smarter decision. This form of naive realism has nothing to do with better connecting the dots – it is actually a way to subtly self-delude yourself.

Whenever I witness a shrinkage of time between thinking and action, I consider myself to succeed. Chances are, something would click inside your head too. Just go after that click until the next one comes to bother you. No matter if it tells you to do the opposite. Conditions are always changing. Assuming to have the right key is a shortcut would lead you nowhere.

Pursuing that click over and over, just reminding myself of the previous one’s quality, is what keeps me alive and ever changing.

See that One in every Zero you used to look at.


Photo Credits: Ewa.P

I can’t get no…satisssfaction.

I’d like to thank all those little kids who made it through the Stanford marshmallow experiment. Delayed gratification has become so juicy – every time I think of it, I drool like a pavlovian dog.

It was tough, though. Think of that kid who had to stop himself from taking the candy. Would you have done the same? That is why I’m so fond of them, and of whom made the experiment happen. I’m going to repeat last Seth Godin’s Keynote, because this message can’t ever be sufficiently underlined:

To eat one marshmallow or two marshmallows?

Those who made it through successfully, kept these two ideas in their head at the same time.

When struggling to make anything happen, it all comes to the same issue: It might work, it might not work. The only way to do something new, is to keep both of those ideas at the same time.

It is all about creating a personal, brand-new blend of the original koan that drives us crazy. It is not easy. But we keep doing it.

Meditation plays a major role in developing such a mindset. It teaches you how to bear with multiple thoughts, while the mind is running all over the places like a crazy monkey. They call it presence, dude. Because at the very end, it is all a matter of attitude.

[get the rhyme]